Compare Yourself to Yourself (summary of chapter 4 of “12 Rules for Life” by Dr. Peterson)

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“Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today.”
~ Dr. Jordan B Peterson

My blog is on its way to becoming a commentary of my life as it has been affected by Jordan Peterson. His understanding of human nature hits life’s problems right on the head. His solutions are so helpful and his reasoning and wisdom go far deeper than any general self-help book.

In his book, “12 Rules for Life: an antidote to chaos” Peterson writes the above quote and dedicates an entire chapter to it. Of the 12 Rules that Peterson covers (each one full of wisdom and necessity), this is one that has impacted me the most.

Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today.

Your life, your situation, is unique among the billions of people on the planet, and the trillions of lives that have been lived through history. Comparing yourself to others is not only unhelpful, it is simply unreasonable. It is unreasonable, not only because your situation is unique, but because there are so many playing fields, and while someone might surpass you in a few of those playing fields, the probability that they triumph in all playing fields is close to nil.

I’ve joked to myself that there are 3 kinds of people in the world.

a. People I admire and want to be like
b. People I admire in some specific aspects
c. and people that I like, but don’t wish to be like

(I guess it’s funny to me because I like people, and liking every stranger on a regular day is my normal, and that’s funny to me.)

I’m finding that more and more of the people that I had previously placed in category a have been moved to category b, because as I grew to know them better, I learned that not every aspect of their life was admirable or desirable. It’s amazing how almost everyone has weaknesses! And I’ve found that many people who I had placed in category b, with specific aspects that I admire, perhaps fitness or attractiveness, I have now seen what was sacrificed in other areas of their life, things I cannot or will not sacrifice, and so they are now in category c. I like them, but I don’t wish to be like them.

More productive than comparing myself to others is comparing myself to who I was yesterday. I want to be growing. I don’t believe anyone is truly stagnant. If you aren’t growing in character and maturity, you are still growing in age, and that means you are sinking in character as compared to your age and experiences. I always want to be growing in proportion to my age. I want to be a little better than who I was yesterday.

Peterson recommends 3 questions to ask every day.

1. What bothers me about my life? (Or, what needs to change?)
2. Could I do something about that?
3. Would I honestly do something about that?

We are not our own slaves. We must negotiate with ourselves as if we were valued employees; we must make it worth it to ourselves to do said task. If we set too large of a goal — it won’t get done. What can you do today, and what will you do today? What would make it worth it to you to do that? For me, just sitting on Pinterest with a cup of coffee is a great reward. If I reward myself well, pay myself for the work I put in, I’m more likely to keep working. Think: valued employee, not servant.

If the answer is “no” to any of the 3 questions, aim smaller. Once you’ve done this thing, reward yourself whatever you promised yourself. Don’t punish yourself by making yourself do more work.

As you improve, just a little every day, you will inevitably aim higher and higher. By starting small and gaining momentum, you set yourself up for success in greater things.

Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today.

 

With love,
Ellie

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Long for Home, Critique Wanted

This blog was originally made to get feedback from people who took time out of their life to read it. So….do I still have any of those readers? Hmm, good question.

I am getting close to self publishing a short story through Createspace.com. I’m getting closer every day, and I can feel it in my bones. It’s almost ready….almost.

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A brief synopsis is on the back of the book cover. The first draft (a lot of editing has been done) was my original profession and explanation of my faith, written right after I was saved in 2010. Right now I am looking for people to review the book and tell me what fine-tuning is left to be done. The story is about 16,000 words long.

If anyone is interested, let me know in the comments and I can send you an email.

 

Thanks!
Ellie

Can You See Me? 35k story

coverI wrote two shorter stories in November last year for NaNoWriMo, because this first one only got me 35,000 words or so.

I finally decided to let my blog readers critique it.

Now understand–this is very rough, there are removed/not inserted scenes, and they are all scattered. The climax scenes were very unprofessionally put together, the chapters stop part way, I think,  but I still want to hear your criticisms.

Pg 4 Pg 1 Pg 2 Pg 3

Thanks!

Electric Bubbles

 

NaNoWriMo Books

Yet another Nanopost that I couldn’t keep in my drafts folder long enough. 

I found a couple of books by NaNoPeople for NaNoPeople to see how they would help out my buddies who are going to Camp with me. (See Camp NaNoWriMo)


No Plot, No Problem! is a book, especially for NaNoWriMo by Chris Baty, the very man who started NaNoWriMo in 1999. (Don’t we owe a lot to him?)

I loved reading No Plot, No Problem! It’s fun, exciting, and very helpful in getting your word count finished. He’s got the exercises, activities, brain triggers, and helpful info that a starter, or a re-starter, would need. (It’s even got little buttons to click! My inner editor had a kick with this guy.) Chris Baty uses a “Talk to the reader” feel, and he acts like a teacher, an awesome, fun, and a bit haha strange teacher. (More like a fellow student with a bunch of experience.) You gotta love the cowboy hat thinking cap; I need one of those. And to celebrate after June, I just might take his advice. 😛
I must warn that in this book as in so many other books a few times, he does use slightly inappropriate words for no reason. I hate when that happens, but it’s there so, yeah that.


Ready Set Novel! is a workbook by Chris Baty, Lindsey Grant, and Tavia Stewart-Streit, from National Novel Writing Month

It is basically an activity book to get your story planned and started, especially if you aren’t sure about the plot of your novel, or even if you have no story in mind at all. From the very beginning they have you relaxed and ready to write whatever junk comes up. They have character sheets, many lines and boxes to fill out, and journal space. By working with this book, you will understand what you love in your novel, what is hazy, and what you want to avoid. You can understand your place, character, and plot better instead of starting your draft with nothing in mind. (Though, just between you and me, that can be a lot of fun.)

This book will help you before your NaNoWriMo month really, I would recommend filling the whole journal out the week before NaNoWriMo so it is all fresh in your mind when you start writing the draft. You who use it, have fun!!!
I’ve been trying to find other NaNoWriMo books, but no one has ever heard of NaNoWriMo except for the NaNoPeople, so libraries don’t have much of them. Anyway, these are the main two NaNobooks and they are very helpful in NaNoWriMo or out of it.

I plan to read No Plot? No Problem! Every year in October and I’ll be using Ready, Set, Novel! every time I plan a book.

Have fun!
And if you haven’t signed up for Camp NaNoWriMo yet you ought to!

signed
-Electric Bubbles

On the Edge of the Dark Sea of Darkness, #1 in the Wingfeather Saga

Our family has finished reading the third book in this series so I’m writing a short review to encourage others to read it. Really, it’s great!

You may know Andrew Peterson as a contemporary Christian music artist, but did you know he is an author, and one of the best?

At every turn Andrew Peterson surprises you again until your mind begins coming up with crazy, bizarre things that might happen next, but of course you stop yourself with a laugh; “That’s too crazy to happen.” It never is! I look forward to forgetting everything so i can read it all again.

Janner, Tink, and Leeli Igiby live in a little town of Glipwood, next to the dark sea of darkness. They were happy (except for the Fangs that now guarded the town, ever since the Great War, swaggering about and taking children as leasure) until now, and it started with the Dragon Day festival. Meanwhile, Gnag the Nameless is searching all over Scree for the Jewels of Anniera that will enable him to conquer Glipwood, Scree, and possibly the world.

The beginning may take off a bit slow, but I was too busy laughing and rolling my eyes at Andrew Peterson to notice. (In a good way, mind you; he’s really quite funny.)

I give the whole series a hearty five stars and would recommend it to anybody. Now that I’ve finished reading all three books I’m dying for the forth. None of the endings really leave off at big cliff hangers, now that I think about it, but I still couldn’t wait for the next. But now I must. *sigh* Poor, me. 😦

Andrew Peterson has really written a soon be classic that will inevitably be passed from generation to generation. On the very first page you are told in plain words that this is unlike any book you have every read, and if you laughed at the title, you won’t believe what’s inside.

And to anyone who asks, I must say my favorite character is Peet, Nugget, or Podo.

-signed

Electric Bubbles